7 December 2024
Being a working mom is like juggling flaming swords while balancing on a tightrope—sounds dramatic, right? But it’s a pretty accurate description. Between work deadlines, soccer practice, math homework, and dinner prep, it’s easy to lose yourself in the chaos. And let's be real, who has time for self-care when your to-do list is longer than your toddler's bedtime negotiations?
But here’s the thing—and I know you've probably heard this before—you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking time for yourself isn’t selfish; it’s a necessity. Think of self-care like putting gas in your car. If your tank is running on fumes, eventually you’re going to break down, and no one wants a cranky, burnt-out mom.
So, if you’ve been putting yourself last, it’s time to flip the script. Let’s dive into these self-care strategies every working mom needs to know. Spoiler alert: You don’t need a weekend yoga retreat to practice some of these.
1. Carve Out “Me Time” Like Your Life Depends on It
Let’s start with the golden rule of self-care: make time for yourself. Yes, I know—it feels impossible when every moment of your day is spoken for. But even 10-15 minutes of "me time" can work wonders.Wake up earlier (I promise it’s worth it), use your lunch break, or steal time in the evening after the kids are asleep. During this time, do something you love—whether that's sipping coffee in silence, reading a chapter of a book, or binging your fave Netflix series guilt-free.
Think of it as a mini-vacation for your brain. You deserve it.
2. Get Comfortable Saying “No”
Moms are natural multitaskers and nurturers, which means we tend to say “yes” to everything—from work overtime to volunteer bake sales. But constantly saying "yes" can leave you stretched thinner than pizza dough.Here’s the kicker: setting boundaries is a form of self-care. It’s okay to turn down things that don’t align with your priorities or that simply overwhelm you. Next time someone asks for something that feels like too much, practice saying:
- "Sorry, my plate’s full right now."
- "I can’t commit to that, but I appreciate you thinking of me."
Saying "no" is like decluttering your life—it frees up space for the things that matter most.
3. Prioritize Sleep (Yes, Really)
Sleep is the ultimate self-care tool, yet it’s usually the first thing to go when life gets hectic. If you’re running on five hours of sleep a night and surviving on caffeine fumes, you’re not doing yourself any favors.Good sleep makes you a sharper employee, a more patient mom, and, let’s be honest, a less grumpy human. Set a bedtime routine that works for you. Maybe it’s sipping herbal tea, dimming the lights, or listening to a calming podcast.
And no, doom-scrolling TikTok until midnight doesn’t count as a routine. (Guilty as charged, but let’s do better.)
4. Move Your Body (Even If It’s for 10 Minutes)
Look, I’m not saying you need to hit the gym every day or become a marathon runner. But incorporating some sort of physical activity into your routine is a game-changer.Exercise isn’t just about fitting into your pre-baby jeans—it’s about boosting your energy and mental clarity. Take a brisk walk, do a quick yoga session on YouTube, or dance around the kitchen while making dinner.
The goal? Find something that feels fun, not like a chore. Remember, your kids are always watching, and modeling a healthy lifestyle is a win-win.
5. Simplify Your Morning Routine
Mornings for working moms can feel like a chaotic blur of cereal spills, lost shoes, and forgotten backpacks. (Why does the drama always peak at 7:30 a.m.?) One way to reduce stress is to simplify your morning routine.Prep the night before. Lay out clothes, pack lunches, and check homework. Bonus points if you can sneak in 5 minutes of mindfulness or journaling to set the tone for your day.
Think of mornings like assembling IKEA furniture—when you've prepped all the pieces, everything comes together more smoothly.
6. Lean on Your Village
They say it takes a village to raise a child, and you know what? They’re absolutely right. Stop trying to do it all alone. Ask for help when you need it, whether it’s from your partner, parents, friends, or even coworkers.Need someone to babysit? Ask. Need a carpool buddy? Delegate. Need wine and venting with your bestie? Schedule it.
There’s no shame in leaning on others; in fact, it makes you stronger. It’s like a relay race—you’re not supposed to run the whole thing by yourself.
7. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Moms
Social media is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it’s a great way to connect. On the other hand, it’s a highlight reel that can make you feel like you’re falling short.Spoiler: That mom who looks like she has it all together? She doesn’t. We’re all just winging it and hoping for the best.
Focus on your journey rather than measuring yourself against others. Your kids don’t need the “perfect” mom—they need you, messy bun and all.
8. Plan a Guilt-Free Getaway
When was the last time you took a break? And no, I don’t mean a quick grocery run or solo bathroom trip. I mean a real break—like taking a day off, going out with friends, or hitting the spa.It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. A simple coffee date with yourself or an afternoon at the park can feel like hitting the reset button.
And let’s lose the guilt, okay? A happy mom = happy family.
9. Feed Your Mind and Soul
Self-care isn’t just about bubble baths and face masks (although those are nice). It’s also about nurturing your mind and soul.Read a book that inspires you, take up a hobby, or try journaling to clear your thoughts. Even listening to an uplifting podcast on your commute can recharge your mental batteries.
Think of it as mental maintenance—like decluttering your closet but for your brain.
10. Celebrate Wins—Big and Small
Finally, give yourself some credit, Mama. You’re out here doing the impossible daily, and that deserves recognition. Did you crush a presentation at work? Celebrate with your favorite treat. Did you survive a tantrum-filled morning? Pat yourself on the back.Life as a working mom is tough, but acknowledging your wins keeps you motivated and reminds you how amazing you are.
Final Thoughts
Being a working mom is no walk in the park, but you can find balance with the right self-care practices. Remember, self-care doesn’t have to be extravagant or time-consuming—it’s the little things that add up. So, schedule that “me time,” say no when you need to, and never underestimate the power of a good night’s sleep.You’re not just surviving—you’re thriving. And that’s something worth celebrating.
Bradley Rodriguez
Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential. As a working mom, carve out little moments for yourself—whether it’s a quiet cup of coffee, a quick workout, or a good book. Prioritize small joys daily to recharge, reduce stress, and be the best for your family.
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